Shop Til You Drop!

So today I had to drop C.J. off and pick her up alone. This is the result of Mommy and Daddy both sleeping through their alarms, and Mommy running late for work. We will get better though. I guess those days of walking out the door by 6:30am are getting harder and harder.

Anyway, TGIF! What is a man to do? Go to chill with his boys, No! Does he go home and lay down to rest from a long week, of course not. Does he go home and do some writing or research that he needs to catch up on, who are you kidding? So what does he do you ask, he shops! Let me tell you, shopping for myself is always pleasurable but shopping for C.J. brings out my creative genius. If anyone knows me I like to be different, so of course when I am out shopping for her, I am looking to go where no one else goes and buy what no one else would buy. Hopefully my creative sense of style will rub off on lil C. J. when she begins to buy her own clothes, with my money of course. Which brings me to the thought of how will we address the issue of clothing in the Johnson household? Maybe I should be more specific...how will Daddy deal with C.J.'s sense of style?

I am telling you good people, the argument will happen. I can hear myself already saying...this is too low, this skirt is too short, those pants have too many holds, let's try to loosen them jeans a bit. Those are just the G-rated things I probably can say on here, but I bet as she gets older, I will have to be a bit more colorful. Start praying for me now, and pray for her double-fold. Jesus is the only one who can help either of us when the time comes.

As I walk around and see what little girls are wearing, I shake my head and say, "Oh my God" or "They are not 11 years old". It is frightening at times to see these young girls with no innocence. They dress as if they are hookers on the point and think it is cute. The only thing I can do is to teach C.J., as I do, that she is a priceless gem and that she should present herself to any and everyone with dignity and self-respect. Therefore her dress will reflect the confidence and power she possesses. I know some of you will say he is going to have that girl a wreck...I pray I will not. I just simply want to do what I feel so many fathers do not do and that is help my daughter understand the definition of a lady. Proverbs 31 will be a lot of help. I actually referred to that passage of scripture last night at a viewing and I want to instill virtue in C.J. now. (Note to you all, you will probably hear that passage of scripture used a lot. It is one blueprint of a lady.)

So I shopped for my lil homey today...some cute stuff too, but nothing that will mature here beyond her years. It is fun getting her things but I have to make sure she does not cut into Daddy's suit and bow-tie fund. I have to make sure the dad and daughter have swag together.

Well, I have a long weekend ahead of me and need to prepare. In the meanwhile, you folks can ponder on that, and read Proverbs 31 in your spare time. C.J. is well on her way to becoming a virtuous woman. Her daddy will do all he can to support her growth throughout her life too. Until we meet again, always remember to pray because prayer changes things!

Game Not Over

Tonight as I hold C.J. in one arm and type with the other I recall my childhood. The many simulations of this day that have occured. Even as a child I always thought of being a daddy. The only difference was that my child was never this small. I mean I have attended PTA meetings, walked my daughter down the aisle and even bought her a new car. My many wives and I were always so proud of our daughter too. If only this were grade school again...what a perfect world this would be.

Reality is that C.J. was not born as an adult. She will go through a developmental process which I will have to deal with. I think about all the things I will encounter during her lifetime: the first day of school, the first school dance, when she drums up the nerve to bring some boy to the house, her prom and graduation, the first day of college, graduate school and her receiving her doctorate. Not to mention, when she begins to bud, wears make up, her little friend comes to play for the first time, the first time her heart is broken, when she falls off her bike or doesn't make the team.

Boy oh boy does playing house sound so inviting now, but I know it is not there for me. C.J. is real, she eats, sleeps and breathes. When I get tired of her I can not simply say game over! I have to stick in there and tough it out, and help her be the best C.J. she can be!

I will leave you all now and catch you tomorrow. Until then remember to pray because prayer changes things!

Give Me More

So I talk to a friend and she tells me she wants more. Well, I am Frank Sinatra and I do things my way! I will take your suggestion and see how I may apply it or not. Tonight I presented a workshop and in my head the question arose. "What will C.J. learn from me?"

I say that because so much of who we are is learned behavior. I would like to think that C.J. will be a risk taker, open minded, one who likes to be challenged, one who values all people, one who is willing to explore and one who looks for the good in people. Hopefully she will learn this from watching her dad and mom.

As I have grown I have learned that children are impressionable. If you teach love they will love, if you teach hate they will hate. My niece was in church while I was preaching and she thought that I said that she did not have to share. She went weeks literally not sharing with anyone simply because her uncle "Rudy" said so. It was not until I was asked my her Pop to correct her that she changed.

The presentation challenged students to step out of their comfort zone and dare to be different. It is my pray that through a solid home foundation and by learning to accept all people for who they are that C.J. will not have a limited zone of comfort. This will make it possible for her to communicate with all people as MLK outlined it in most of his speeches.

As I play beat the clock I have no C.J. updates for today. Shatema did share that she was lifting that head well during belly time but me being away I did not have much interaction with my girl. However as usual she is always on daddy's mind. So with ten minutes to spare I meet the deadline to keep decent chronological order. As I go, remember to pray because prayer changes things.

Usually Shatema edits but she is sleep so their is no telling what is wrong or right grammatically. It is late and my brain is fried.

They Grow Up So Fast

I have to let you all know that my daughter is sleeping through the night. I am proud of that too because it could be much worse. She is getting on schedule with Mommy and Daddy and it is a great thing for us all. We all get to where we need to when we need to be there.

A couple of things about today. I decided that I was going to arrange her marriage now. I contacted some friends that I know who had boys and told them to put in applications. My thought process is this, if I watch now and groom the young fella by the time she finishes her doctorate degree he will be ready. Straight through and she will be done by 30. I mentioned it to a few women...they laughed, the guys understood my feelings. I just want to rid myself of the whole dating era she will go through. She can date my approved boy and call it a career.

I also bought her a cell phone. Not a real one, sillies. It does flip open and make sounds but she can't call anyone on it. The phone is cute though even has a little mirror on it so she can see herself. This is just one of those toys that a daddy buys to help with development. At this age if a toy is not educational I do not want it. Mommy thought I was nuts but I like getting C.J. little things here and there...ok all the time...LOL!

Man I can not believe it has been two months and counting already. C.J. is getting so big and doing new things all the time. Someone said today, that soon it will be PreK, then Prom, then college! I said aaahhhhhhhhh! This is all coming too fast. That is why I must live day by day and try not to think about C.J. growing up because if I do, I will Peter Pan her and keep her little forever. Just playing, really I just want to make sure I am there every step of the way to usher her into each new milestone in life. Today kids grow up so fast, even my little nephew and niece are both in school and it seems like just yesterday that they were born.

So as I go to watch C.J. grow while sleeping, you all remember to pray as always because prayer changes things.

Being a Daddy Is So Underrated!

Ok, so I get off work, hit smooth traffic (due to the fact that no one but me had to work today), get to the babysitter in record time and I am home by 5:00pm. Now I was supposed to prepare for two presentations that I have later this week, but when you are a new daddy, only one thing can stop all of that. For this Daddy it is his darling C.J.!

So we get home and Daddy prepares dinner. Next, C.J. was up so I turned on the music for her to listen to. I mean you had to see her little feet moving and her arms jerking to the beat. There was some Earth Wind and Fire, Jagged Edge, Stevie Wonder and then one of Daddy's favorites, Al Green. She was moving so much to "Love and Happiness" I decided to hold her hands (while she was in her rocker) and dance with her. C.J. and Daddy were two stepping nicely, if I do say so myself. She smiles and giggled, I smiled and kept up with the beat. What man would not enjoy that moment? I was speaking to one of my kids (the ones I take care of on the job) and I expressed to her that they were my training for C.J. in the future. She said I was a great dad. Well, I believe great kids make great dads and C.J. is already great! I enjoy every moment around her, even the moments I wish we were both asleep. So the time well spent with C.J. means I will be up all night, but who cares? Dancing and singing with her is more important than anything else I could have been doing. If I do not do it she will begin dancing and singing stuff she does not need to with someone else.

I enjoy doing things with C.J. I even got her dressed in the morning to look all pretty. I like seeing her smile when she is all bundled up and ready to go. She looks cute as ever with the different clothing hook-ups, and I guess Daddy being a clothes fiend doesn't help either. I just take pride in how I look and C.J. will learn to as well. I just have to work on her not being conceited.

So this daddy thing is really underrated. I do not think some guys know what they are missing in not being a part of their children's lives. I mean they miss the twinkle in an eyes, the smile on a face when they see you, and my favorite, the sigh of comfort when you hold them in your arms. I get goosebumps just thinking about it. So fellas, my gem to you is, get involved. If your lady is acting up, fight to get involved. Time spent with your child or children is very rewarding and it costs you nothing. They love you and you should show them that you love them too.

A little tear in the well of the eye as I sign off tonight. As always remember to pray because prayer changes things.

Note to C.J.: Whenever you want to chill with your Daddy, holla! We can do whatever, wherever and whenever. You are priority #1 in Daddy's life. I do work, I do preach, I am involved in many other things, but all you have to do is say the word, and Daddy will make it happen. Daddy is going to make fatherhood the popular thing to do, and no that doesn't mean being someone's baby's daddy. That means cherishing what God has blessed you with and nurturing your child to grow into a beautiful flower.

Today Was A Good Day

As with every Sunday since I have returned to church, I had to leave my ladies this morning. Before I left I prayed and applied the daily kisses to the forehead. C.J. actually slept through the night. This is becoming a habit that I can enjoy, and a happy Daddy means a happy C.J.

So on the ride home, I heard C.J. while I chatted with Mommy on the phone. This little girl of mine will be like her Daddy and have the gift of gab. She actually enjoys hearing herself make sounds, which means she is going to like talking when she is able to formulate words with the sounds she makes. These are good signs that C.J. has the possibility to be the weather woman on Good Day New York.

I must say that when I hear C.J., especially when I am not around, I desire to be close to her quickly so she can chat with her dad. Which makes me begin to think about the future chats we will have. Those about school and sports and the dreaded ones about boys. I cringe inside and out by just thinking of that day. Let me move on quickly from here, lol!

C.J. is responding to sound a lot more too. She is developing those skills that she will need to operate within society on any given day. She is always observant of her surroundings too. Her eyes follow me whenever I am around. She will move those eyes all around a room in response to the slightest crack in the floor, which again, I believe is good.

So with football on all day, C.J. did not watch any. Mommy said not on her watch. I told Mommy that she needed to support me on C.J's. development and she replied, "What development?" I told her, "Her athletic development. The more she sees the more intrigued she becomes." All Mommy could do was laugh! We will have to continue praying for Mommy's sports interest. Folks I will let her decide on what she wants to do but I do want to introduce, just like music, a wide variety of sports to her and then she can choose whether or not she would like to participate.

So as the day comes to an end, it was a good one. Great worship, good weather, good little league sports, the Giants demolished the Raiders and C.J. is cooperating a lot more. I love these kind of days and I love my little C.J.!

Until another day, always remember to pray because prayer changes things.

P.S. It is 9:30pm and C.J is chilling in her little seat. I am so loving her being a big girl!

It's A Family Affair

Everyday will not be filled with excitement or C.J. doing something remarkable. However days like today are so special and fulfilling. Today in our home the main agenda was SLEEP! I mean we all slept until we felt like getting up. Now when I did get up I thought I had screwed myself because I needed a haircut and getting to the barber after 9AM on a Saturday is just plain crazy. However he was late and I ended up being on time. The three hours I spent there, you best believe I nodded a whole lot, but the rest I needed was taken. I returned home and had lunch with Shatema which is always cool. The great thing about it is that C.J. allowed it to occur. She is now sitting in her rockers and bouncers quietly. This allows Mommy and Daddy to eat together, do dishes, laundry, clean the house, shower and other things that come up. I am so proud of my little lady!

Now back to the sleep. After lunch and loading the laundry, Mommy and C.J. went into the bedroom to lay down and go to sleep. Now Mommy fell asleep and then zoned out. C.J., my little princess, realized Daddy was watching football and decided to cheer so I went and got her. I positioned her in my arm and proceeded to watch Arkansas trounce Auburn. We enjoy SEC football because all the teams have the potential to win. As usual, C.J. paid attention and smiled too. I still do not know who her favorite team is, but if she is smart and I know she is, Notre Dame will be the team she cheers for. She can like the Longhorns too if she desires.

We will always enjoy these lazy weekends because they mean that everyone is home. So I guess I need to find C.J. and I matching outfits, so we can watch football in style. I am on that task immediately. Well, C.J. and I need to prepare for the LSU vs. Florida game, so she needs to take a bath and Daddy needs to go get an ice cream sundae. Until tomorrow my friends, always remember to pray because prayer changes things.

P.S., C.J. thank you for allowing your Mommy and Daddy to get things done and to get some rest today. Daddy appreciates it and I know Mommy does too! You're becoming a big girl already.